For Grown Folks Thats Married
The Master The Method The Man The Marriage
The Master
Gen 1:1 Orgin of all things is God Before there was a you there was a God Our pattern,example, must center of marriage Attributes of: God is omniscient ,-knows all,omnipotent-all powerful,omnipresent-everywhere just, immuttable holy, merciful,just,faithful
The Method
God is the author of marriage (a couple joined for life in a special spiritual and physical relationship). God said, "it is not good that the man should be alone…" (Gen. 2: 18). It is a common fact that man is a social being. His life is enhanced and increased by having a proper companion. God then said, "…I will make an help meet for him." The Hebrew word translated "help meet" suggests a counter-part. Some versions have the footnote, "helper comparable to him." She is the help meet, not the help mat, so don't walk on her.
God made woman for man. It has been remarked that God made Eve, not Steve for Adam. The woman was created for man! (Gen. 2: 18-22, 23). The apostle Paul later wrote, "Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man" (I Cor. 11: 9). "…Man is not of the woman," he further argues to illustrate man's headship, "but the woman of the man" (vs. 8). Man is in "the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man" (vs. 7). Since God made woman for man, she is ideally suited both emotionally, anatomically, and psychologically to meet the needs of man - all so called women's movements to the contrary notwithstanding.Men are not from mars/women are not from venus---men are from God,women are from man
Gen 2:21-25 vs 21.from rib--my rib (wife) only fit in my body vs 22. That's why cheating with someone else wife(rib) never work. She don't fit in your life(body). He made woman-made -hebrew- built. No wonder men refer to women as been built.He made man/but the woman he took time and skillfully built her.Uhmm! That why we say women are beautiful and not men.
The exclusivity of marriage. "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother…," God says regarding the priority of marriage (Gen. 2: 24). A son/parent relationship is wonderful and demanding, but the marriage relationship is more demanding! A man leave home-packing simsonite/suitcase but not the mind. He leaves physicaly but not mentally. Must Leave in order to cleave. (cleave- to stick like glue) Marriage, as ordained by God, involves one man and one woman. Eve, not multiple women, was made for Adam (Gen. 2). "They twain (two, dm) shall be one flesh," Jesus later said (Matt. 19: 5). The play and emphasis is on the numerical "two" and "one." Marriage is monogamous and God was not pleased with polygamy, practiced subsequent to Genesis 2).Most men have many wives-they change their names to Miss. ESPN, Miss. NBA, Miss. NFL, Miss. SUV,and that bold, enticing women name Miss. Internet Chat Room. The other women could be right in the house. Remember Hagar was in the house with Abraham.
What constitutes marriage which is joined by God. Not all marriages are joined by God. Many, even of my brethren, equate marriage and bond. Joined together but not married However, in some cases, one can be married to one and bound to another (Rom. 7: 3). Marriage does not necessarily imply there is a bond, in other words. Two eligible people must have the intent of the marriage commitment. The betrothment (what we loosely call "engagement") of the Hebrew scriptures was indicative of such an intent (Ex. 22: 16). Marriage among the Jews was prearranged by parents - such declared intent.
The Bible speaks of God being "witness between thee and the wife of thy youth." Also, "…the wife of thy covenant" (Mal. 2: 14). One commentator wrote regarding Bible marriages: "The actual marriage seems to have been accompanied by certain solemn promises and blessings (The Pulpit Commentary, vol. 14, on Malachi 2: 14). The totality of the teaching of the Bible shows what we call the "exchanging of vows." I stress this facet of marriage to say there is a manifest difference between marriage and just living together in fornication. The purpose of marriage. The ideal marriage is both physical and spiritual. "…To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and every woman have her own husband," the Bible says (I Cor. 7: 2). The conjugal aspects of marriage are clearly and unashamedly taught (I Cor. 7: 3-6, Heb. 13: 4).
Marriage is also for the producing and education of children (Gen. 1: 28). Paul wrote of the woman, "notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety" (I Tim. 2: 15).
Many are conversant with the physical considerations of marriage - the conjugal, children, etc. - but not enough are aware of the spiritual. The biblically ideal marriage involves an acknowledgment of God and his word at the beginning and throughout the marriage. Men and women entering marriage should be as compatible as possible. Moreover, spiritual compatibility should be a requisite. In short, both should be Christians (I Pet. 3: 7, see also Eph. 5: 22-33). Many conflicts and problems occur because neither or just one is a Christian (Acts 26: 28). The expression "one flesh" I am convinced refers to more than the sexual. While they remain two entities, they unite in purpose. The spiritual is also seen concerning the nurturing of children. Children are to be brought "up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord" (Eph. 6: 4). Children are also to "obey your parents in the Lord…" (vs. 1).
Headship in marriage. All relationships must have structure in order to properly function, marriage is no exception. The truth stated in the Bible is the husband is the head, the wife is to be in subjection, and the children are to obey their parents in the Lord (Eph. 5: 22-6: 4 ,1Cor 11:3). The too common American family is in direct opposition to God's teaching regarding marriage. Marriage is not a democracy with all ruling, including the children! Alas, many men lack leadership abilities. They are growing up in homes where biblical headship is not practiced - even members of the Lord's church. More and more preachers and elders (role models) do not rule their own houses (I Tim. 3: 4, 5, Tit. 1: 6). In the case of elders, some local churches have become mutually ruled! (See Hebrews 13: 17.)
The longevity of marriage. God ordained marriage is manifestly permanent (Gen. 1, 2). In alluding to and reinstating the original marriage law, Jesus said: "…what therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder" (Matt. 19: 6). "For the woman which hath a husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth…," Paul wrote (Rom. 7: 2). The only exception or contingency to the continuance of the marriage bond, other than death, is adultery. The innocent mate may elect to sever the marriage bond (his tie) based on the fornication of their mate (Matt. 5: 32, 19: 9). It is becoming more and more uncommon to witness forty and fifty wedding anniversaries. How sad.
Beloved, God ordained marriage, when obeyed, will work and will result in one of the most fulfilling human relationships known to man. Such a marriage can also spiritually enhance both the husband and the wife and bestow on them blessings which can not otherwise by enjoyed.
Please answer the love quiz questions as honestly as you can, based on what you really feel is characteristic of your relationship. Throughout the love test/questionnaire, the blanks are for you to mentally insert the name of your spouse or significant other (if you are not yet married). Score the following questions on the love quiz on a scale of 1 to 9. One means not at all. Five means moderately. Nine means extremely. Be sure to score each question on the quiz/test as honestly as you can, based on what you feel is characteristic of your relationship.
1........ 2......... 3......... 4......... 5......... 6......... 7......... 8......... 9....
not at all............................moderately.........................extremely so
1. I share deeply personal information about myself with ______. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
2. I find myself thinking about ______ during the day. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
3. Because of my commitment to ______, I would not let others come between us. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
4. I receive considerable emotional support from ______. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 5. My relationship with ______ is very romantic. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
6. I expect my love for ____to last for the rest of my life. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
7. I communicate well with ______. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
8. I cannot imagine another person making me as happy as ______ does. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
9. I will always feel a strong responsibility for ______. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
10. I feel that I can really trust ______. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
11. My relationship with ______ is very passionate. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
12. I plan to continue my relationship with ______. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
13. I feel that ______ really understands me. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
14. I would rather be with ______ than anyone else. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
15. I have confidence in the stability of my relationship with ______. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
Your total score:
Your average Intimacy Score is ____. (The average of the scores you gave to questions 1, 4, 7, 10, and 13).
Your Average Passion Score is ____ . (The average of the scores you gave to questions 2, 5, 8, 11, and 14)
Your Average Commitment Score is ____. (The average of the scores you gave to questions 3, 6, 9, 12, and 15).
